%% ID: 13204990 Updated: 2022-01-28 %% ![](https://readwise-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/static/images/article1.be68295a7e40.png) # About Title: [[Other/Obsidian Starter Vault(Second Brain)/Readwise/Articles/5 Common Habits That Make You Less Attractive]] Author: [[Sinem Günel]] Category: #articles Number of Highlights: ==18== Last Highlighted: *2021-11-08* Readwise URL: https://readwise.io/bookreview/13204990 Source URL: https://medium.com/personal-growth/5-common-habits-that-make-you-less-attractive-9a64d306c1bb # Highlights adding new traits to your personality can be a good add-on, what’s even more important is keeping an eye on the things you’re already doing. ^278320731 --- Sometimes, you don’t need to do or be more to improve your life. You just need to get rid of a few habits that are holding you back. ^278320732 --- attractiveness is way more than that. ^278320733 --- The attractiveness of a person also influences if you want to collaborate with them, buy from them, trust them, and so much more. ^278320734 --- changing your outer appearance is way easier than changing your behavior ^278320735 --- Dozens of new inventions per week promise to make life easier while all they do is make us lazier. ^278320736 --- But laziness isn’t attractive. Effort is attractive. Caring is attractive ^278320737 --- helpfulness significantly shape how attractive we find someone. ^278320738 --- she was able to ask her customers personal questions such as whether their kids passed the exams, how the dog was doing, and so on. ^278320739 --- It only took her seconds to make the notes, but the customers felt so much more valued and appreciated because they knew someone cared about them in that store. ^278320740 --- If you want to attract and impress more people, go the extra mile and do the things most people aren’t willing to do: Write down names, take notes of special occasions, and use your cheat sheets to your advantage ^278320741 --- If you don’t get enough sleep, you’ll likely have hanging eyelids, red eyes, and dark circles around your eyes. Sleep-deprived people also look less healthy and sad. ^278320742 --- He asks you how you’re doing, so you tell him about your success and share how proud you are ^278320743 --- Without even spending a second congratulating you, he starts talking about a similar success he recently experienced. He emphasizes how his achievement is more powerful than yours and interrupts you whenever you want to say something ^278320744 --- Most of us are bad listeners, and we suck at celebrating the wins of others. That’s because we all enjoy talking about ourselves ^278320745 --- The good news is that you can easily stand out from most people just by asking more questions and listening to your conversation partners. ^278320746 --- try to ask more questions.Give your best to understand your conversation partner. Put your ego aside and focus on them instead of yourself. ^278320747 --- we find people more attractive when we see them more often. ^278320748